the atheist's argument

the atheist's argument: "if me, who is thinking, concluded that there is no God, then those people who claim that there is one, must not be thinking". can you spot a logical mistake here?

i recently spoke with a friend who is atheist or agnostic (i still mix those up) and asked what would she do if her kid, raised without religion, would choose to become a member of religion. the answer is she would be fine with it, but she would not be happy about it, and consider it her failure as a mother. where is the freedom of choice here? how is this not different from what the members of a religion are constantly accused for? how is that not brainwashing?

it is not religion which is making people do bad things. it is people. people are bad, selfish and egocentric. and they want that others agree with them, no matter on which topic. this discussion about religion is like discussing color of someone's hair when they are getting behind the wheel drunk. it is simply not the point. if there was no religion people would find something else to fight over. maybe the color of the hair.

i just honestly don't care. the point is to be content with your life, without damaging the life of others. and how you do it i really don't care. and if you teach your kid to do the same that worked for you - i will say that's a very good idea, whatever it is. but don't think it's a disaster if they don't follow, if anyone doesn't follow. this is all so simple to me. am i an ignorant? if yes, then i can't even see why.

It's much easier to be in a one sided love, secretly.

About inequality and prejudice

I had this thought today and it stroke me. Maybe it's as simple as making the best of what you have been given. You are ugly, people think you steal because you were born in a poor country, people misjudge you because of your natural unfriendly face expression.. you are fat.. or you are a female software developer.

Yesterday I approached a group of guys on a software conference meetup, I had no make up and no mood for anything else than just having a beer, I wanted to get a bit tipsy and switch my mind off. Maybe to listen to some people voices and interact with them occasionally. So there is this group looking like they are having a relaxed conversation, and I am approaching them. As soon as they noticed me - puff, magic, the backs straightened, the eyesight started to nervously wander from the speaker to me and back, next one of them got a talk attack about some bullshit, the other desperately tried to interrupt, and after 10 minutes of trying to follow whatever whoever it saying to me I realized that a) I can't follow the conversation b) the whole "relaxed" atmosphere went to hell, and the level of the conversation below it. And of course, finally, just to finish me up, came the awaited question: "so what are you actually doing here (at a software conference)? Oh really, you are a software developer??".

And at that point I could get pissed off, like I usually do, and then I thought: ok sometimes you have a bit slower machine, but does it mean you should give up learning to program, sometimes a bit worse startup in life, does it mean you should give up learning and going to university, maybe your parents did not buy you a car and a house, does it mean you are justified to live under the bridge. Does it mean that something is not fair? I think long time ago I decided there are no unfair things, things are as they are, and it is up to the person involved to do sth with it. I was born as a female, yes, and it is up to me to learn to use the advantages of that, and avoid the disadvantages, or, simply, not give a shit.

Ignoring exceptions

I just wondered, is this clean code?

..
} catch(InterruptedException ignore) {}
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I'm not sure, but I like it :D

The most reliable stain remover..

Stain?

 No stain! :D

Seriously, nothing else helped, even the special stuff I bought in the shop.. next time I won't waste my time :D

A thought about a dog that happened in a doctor's waiting room..

A dog without one leg jumping happily, why does it trigger this funny feeling inside us, something between disgust, hope, relieve and happiness.

Maybe because it means that even if something goes entirely not the way we wanted, we will still be able to be happy? And maybe we will not even remember how it could have been otherwise, as the reality in which we will end up well be the only reality we will know. Just like the dog does now.

So maybe it's also not that scary to bend your limits or accept things you were not willing to accept, or actually try to understand the other person's point of view, despite being afraid that this will change your settled views. Despite the feeling that you do something against yourself. Maybe a change, even if painful, even if at beginning it feels like we are losing or sacrificing something, maybe with time it will feel as good as before. Because we will know no other way.

Because, does it really matter which way it is? If it's the best one or second best or second worst? In the end it will be the only way I know, so why should I bother.

Some words of wisdom by me

Don't be what other people expect you to be, confront them with who you are.